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My heart goes out to you. Every mothers worse nightmare. I cried when I read your letter . I always tell my husband that babys are angels that god has plucked their wings off and sent them to earth, maybe god needed him back. That is what I would tell my child till they were old enough to understand.I am happy that you are having a baby it is a blessing. Being strong for your kids is hard when your heart hurts but in time it will get better. I lost a child when I was preagnant at age 22 I never saw or held him, I heard his heart beat and felt him but he was dying inside and I was helpless. I swore i would never have kids. And then at age 34 I did. He would have been @12yrs old now. I still think about it and sometimes I do cry. You never can replace them but you can keep your heart open for the others and remember the good.i hope it helps to know that I genuinly care. Take care.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I have not experienced a loss such as you have. I don't think there is a right and wrong way to grieve. However, counseling may help the process along. My heart breaks for you. Nothing will ever make the pain of your loss go away but hopefully you will be able to find some joy in your days.

If you feel you need to talk to somebody that will just listen, feel free to e-mail me.

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Hi L.-
I am so sorry for your loss and I do not know how this would feel to lose a child, but my very close friend lost a child at 23 weeks and right after found this wonderful online site that is designed for infant and pregnancy loss..She found a lot of comfort through this website..If you would like me to get you in contact with her or if you need to talk please email.
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http://www.nationalshareoffice.com/index.shtml

Good luck,
M.

L., cal the MISS foundation. They specialize in this. ###-###-####. It is for women by women who have had a similar loss. They're a wonderful group and recommend them to many of my clients. They also have a website www.missfoundation.org
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My heart goes out to you - I will pray for you and your family. I lost a baby too - he died during delivery. My mom found a book for me called, "Mommy, please don't cry". It's a short kids- type book written from the perspective of a young child that has moved on to heaven. I'm not sure what your beliefs are, but I do recommend this book not just for you but for your other children as well. It's a book that I still take out from time to time and read. It's kind of soothing to think about all that he's experiencing and that he misses me too. God Bless you and yours - H.

OH my gosh L., I am so sorry to hear about your baby. I cried while reading this. It will also be good for you to let out your feelings and let your children know that you have these feelings. It's ok to cry. You don't have to be strong. Children are intelligent and they need to know its ok to cry. Death is something tricky to explain to your kids. Even though I haven't experienced that, I do know one thing for certain, please don't tell your children that the baby is sleeping. They will relate death to sleeping and will be afraid of going to bed at night. One thing you can tell your kids, is that the baby died, and her/his body don't work any more. I heard this a long time ago, and it was one way to help kids understand what happens when people die. I am so sorry again for your loss. Feel free to email ____@____.com name is G.. It also might help if you find a minister to help you explain what happened to your children. God Bless. Take care.