Potty Training Help - Kapolei, HI

Start making an elimination schedule of when he is going poo and pee so that you have a good since of when he needs to go to the toilet. With my kids, after a meal is always a safe bet. Next you get rid of the diapers during the day. Explain to him that you are only going to use a pull up at night but during the day, he has to go poop and pee pee on the toilet. For the first couple of days you may want to allow him to run around with nothing on so that he gets a sense of what his body is doing and he doesn't have to deal with putting on and taking off clothes when does ended up going to the toilet by himself. As he becomes more successful you can start putting him in underwear and easy to pull down clothes. With each success, make a big deal out of it -- hoop and hollar and give him lots of tickles and such --and a sticker on his potty chart. And then if he gets "xxx" number of stickers (you decide the #), then he can earn a big prize. What ever prize it is, make sure that you either have the prize visible but out of his reach or have a picture of it so that he will keep remember what he is working for. And just remember that he is still young and kids that young tend to get so wrapped up into their play that they forget to pay attention to their bodies and do have accidents. You will need to remind him often to go to the bathroom and even force the issue sometimes even if he tells you he doesn't need to go.

I hope this helps. Being diaper-free truly is lovely.

I'd say he isn't ready and you need to back off for a month or two. I know that is hard with preschool coming up. Most of them say kids must be pottied train but often take excpetions, especially if he is in the learning phase and knows how to do it, etc.. I'm right with you, my son just turned 3 and has used the toilet on and off for about 6mos. He does it on his terms only. I've backed off and plan to revisit it the first week in June. My son starts school the end of June, I *think* he'll be in underwear by then, but if not, then I just have to pay a little extra while he is in diapers.
Good luck,
M.

Hi D., i have seen this problem so many times. I am a daycare provider and i have pottytrined many kittle ones encluding my own 3.Let me start of by saying it is very difulcult to potty train a child in diapers or pull ups, you need the good old fashion training pants, diapers and pull up give a child the security to mess and wet on themselves, and do not allow them to feel the discomfort the way training pants do. I used reward and discipline with my kids with potty training, (yes discipline) I started my first born when he was 20 months old, by 21 months he was completely pottytrained day and night. i put a decrative see through jar od m&m's on our wall unit in plain few for our son, and that was his reward when he used the potty, 2 weeks into his training i started giving him one swat on his bottom if he messed or peed on him self, this only happend I think once and he got the picture, I also told time we he starts going on the potty every time we would go to the store and he could pick out some big boy underwear, and we did by 2 he was standing up using the toilet. J. Mom for 24 years

Hi D.,

Try waiting another month or two before trying to potty train him again. Sometimes boys take a little longer to potty train anyway. Also, instead of putting him in diapers, put underwear on him. Have him pick it out so he'll want to wear it and tell him that little boys don't wear diapers when they go potty; it's only for little babies. Oh and make it big deal when he does go in the potty...reward him with stickers and celebrate with him =) They love all the attention and praise.
My son had a few accidents at times while he was potty training in his underwear but within a week or so, he got the idea to go on the potty. We also used the DVD 'Potty Power' to help our son want to use the potty. It also teaches kids to wash their hands and that only babies wear diapers, not big kids.

Hope this helps =)

I wish I could help... but can only offer support. My son is doing the exact same thing; he has to be potty trained or preschool by July 1 and I've been working at this tirelessly for the last 4 months. People tell me that I have to just wait if he won't do it but I'm going to have to start paying for the preschool as of July 1 whether he can go or not (so I'd obviously like him to go). Did anyone send you any helpful advice? (FYI my son is 2 yrs. 9 mos.)

I just got the following from a website I subscribe to:

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Potty training doesn't have to be a frustrating experience for either you or your child. Listed below are some quick guidelines:

Little children copy what they see their parents doing. That’s why it's so important to let your tots see you using the potty…and having a good time doing so. (While this may be a bit embarrassing for some, the results are well worth the discomfort.)

Offer lots of choices. For example, "Do you want to use the upstairs potty or downstairs potty?" "Do you want to bring your favorite toy or leave it in your room?" The more small choices we give, the less resistant our kids will be.

Remain calm and empathetic when accidents happen. Punishment never works when it comes to potty training.

Allow your child to train at their own pace. Some kids are ready before they are two years old; others aren't ready until they are around four. When we try to force the issue before our children are ready, frustration is all we will achieve.

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Not to discourage you but boys don't typically potty train early. My boys were both over the age of three before they got it. The more you push the more you will build resentment that will cross over to other areas of his life and it will have long term effects.

I had the same problem with my son, and I know this is going to sound weird, but this was the only thing I could come up with that worked. My husband and I made a game out of it. My husband actually had to do a lot of the work, but if you have a step stool for him, play dunk the cheerio. What you do is, you throw a few cheerios in the toilet to give him something to aim at, and he tries to dunk them when he goes #1. I know it's weird but it worked for #1. As far as #2, you just have to be patient and that will follow shortly. The day we started the dunking game, he wanted nothing more to do with the diapers or pullups. I still put him in something to be safe through the night, but during the day he was fine. After about a week, he didn't need the cheerios anymore. There were still accidents, which is to be expected, but he knew he didn't like the feeling of being in a dirty diaper anymore.
I hope this helps.

what i did with helpig my neice potty train (i had her for a year and a half) was taking her to the bathroom every 20mins and after every meal and of course before we went places. i did use pull ups just to keep the luandry down. she did however had a little anxioty in going #2 in the toilet. i called her pediatrician and he suggested giving her a mild laxitive and have her sit on the toilet until she was done. it took her that one time to make her understand what she needed to do (i gave her lots of praise when she went to the bathroom and she would get one spanking when she messed). maybe try tossing some cherrios in the toilet and having him sink them (well thats if your teaching im to stand) good luck!