What do you all think, I am wanting my husband to get my name tattood on him or some kind of a symbol of our marriage and I would like to do the same for him. The only problem is, he had his ex wifes name tattood on him and after their divorce got a nice cover up tattoo. He says he is not ready to have anyone's name tattoo'd on him right now? What does this really mean, Im wondering if he loved her more than me, or if I am just reading too much into this? I just wanted some outside input on this subject. I was really hurt when he told me this, I took it personal like he doesn't think we are a forever sure thing! But of course he is wanting something like a grime reaper tattoo??
Thank you ladies for your responses...I guess I was just being silly! I guess I just felt like if he did it for her, he should do it for us? But I do feel much better with other opinions besides just mine. I already have a tattoo of our daughters foot print from her birth certificate with her name on my left ankle and leg. And a hummingbird tattoo on my left shoulder, my mother loved hummingbirds, it is a rememberance of her and my father, they both fed there birds everyday! Thanks so much!
He just realized his mistake by getting the first name tattooed on him. It's always a horrible idea to get someone not blood related to you tattooed on your body- always. You should also reconsider. If it's your kids/mom/dad, that's one thing. They will always be your kids/mom/dad. Boyfriends, husbands, etc come and go. It may seem like a forever thing now, but you never know what might happen.
I'm with your husband. Let it go.
Don't do it...you don't need to mark your territory. I LOVE tattoos, but name tats are very tacky, IMO.
Maybe he realized that the first tatoo of a wife's name wasn't a good idea and he doesn't want to repeat what he may feel is not a good decision. I am not opposed to tattoos, I just don't understand putting someone else's name on your body to demonstrate a committment, ownership, love - whatever you want to call it. There is ALWAYS a possibility that the relationship could end, then you've got this constant reminder permanently on your body. You are reading too much into it. This is your idea of showing love, but he may feel differently and you should respect that.
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You are reading too much into your husband's response. He loves you dearly otherwise he might not have covered up the first wife's name on his body. The divorce may have caused more trauma than you will ever know and that is why he covered up her name.
Never worry about competing with an ex as that is what they are "ex". If you have to have a tattoo, get one of a little butterfly and hearts to express your love or put the names of your kids in it. My son has a huge tattoo on his right forearm (wrist to elbow) of his son's name. Remember this is not high school and you and your besties go to the tattoo parlor to get matching ink. The other side is how will these tattoos look in 20 to 40 years?
I have been married to my husband over 42 years and we do not have any tattoos to "show our love".
The other S.
I would never get anyone's name tattooed on my body unless it was my kids'. Don't take what he's saying personally. He's already been through a thing with his ex and had to get it covered. I don't think it says anything about the quality of your relationship. I doubt that he loved her more than you, he's just already done it... maybe he know considers it a mistake.
Don't get me wrong, I love tattoos, just not ones with people's names.
My brother's ex wife got his first and middle name tattooed across the back of her shoulders... a HUGE one (long name and big writing). She's totally crazy and they are divorced now. I think it's hilarious that she's stuck with it now. But then, I'm not a fan of hers.
I love my husband dearly and NEVER see us getting a divorce. But I wouldn't tattoo his name on me, and wouldn't want him to do the same.
You're silly thinking he loved her more then you....he obviously made TWO mistakes, marrying her AND putting his name on his body!
Even if you never seperate, there are better classier ways to show your love. I like the symbol idea, but if he doesn't want to do it let it go. Obviously his first experience w/ that didnt go well. It doesnt mean he doesnt love you!
Instead of each others names, my husband and I both got the exact same tattoo. We both have a Sun tattooed on our ankles. They are exactly the same in the exact same spot on each of us. We liked that idea better than names.
I think you are reading too much into it. I guess I would look at it this way - he did it with his ex's name, and look what happened. Maybe he now knows better - meaning that, not everything works out the way you think it will, despite your best intentions. Maybe he and his ex weren't right for each other. Maybe he's being a bit superstitious and doesn't want it to bring bad luck. Who knows. But I so would NOT be make a big deal about this! He got his ex's name covered up - that should be good enough! I love my husband, and we would never consider divorcing each other, but we are not getting each others names as tattoos either!
I would never expect my husband to get my name tattooed on himself as "proof" of his love for me - the fact that he is with me now, and not with his ex, is proof enough!
Totally don't do it. Don't make him do it. Images are much better and nicer than tacky "oMfg i luv Jon 4EVAR <3" tattoos. They can be spelled wrong, done in an ugly font, and otherwise seriously messed up. And of course, you may both need to cover the tattoos up some time down the road no matter how much in love you are now. ;-)
Yes, you're reading way too much into it.
