My Baby Sleeping with Me! - Homestead,FL

Start putting her to bed in her crib at the same time each night. If she fusses wait 5 minutes before you go in to comfort, and if she is still fussing in 5 minutes, go in and comfort without taking her out of the crib if you can. Just talk to her, or sing, and rub her tummy or back until she is calm, and than leave. If she cries again, wait another 5 minutes before you go in. I did this with my boys and I never had to go in more than once, they always self soothed before the second 5 minutes was up, but I started younger, so it may take a few nights for her to fully get it. Teaching her to sleep on her own will benefit her greatly in the years to come, and this method works well at night as well. When my sons would wake at night I would wait 5 minutes before going in, and they always were back to sleep before the 5 was up.

I have a crib next to my bed, so this way the child is with me but not exactly in my bed, so I am not affraid to stretch or roll over him. If he wakes up for water of from a bad dream - I am right there, can calm him down. I tried moving him in the big boy bed in the diff. room, but - I could not sleep because I worried how is he doing in there all alone :) and when he desided not to slepp there just yet - I was relived! Good luck, this strategy worked for both of my boys.

I second the co-sleeper idea. All four of mine have slept in bed with me, often more than one at a time. I always put the baby on my side away from my husband. I actually sleep better with the baby beside me. It is perfectly natural for your baby to want to sleep with you. With such a long commute every day, I'm sure she needs that time to reconnect with her mama. Sorry I can't offer any other suggestions for getting her out of your bed. I recommend checking out Dr Sears' site regarding safe co-sleeping. http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071000.asp I wish you all the best!

B.

When you lay her in the crib, lay her head in one of the padded corners.. Some babies like the feeling of pressure against their heads..

Make sure her room is prepped with a chair for you to breast feed from. Lights very low or even a night light, soft music or white noise machine..

Do a good night routine.. Give her a really nice calm warm bath.Use nice strong strokes, like a massage. speak in hushed tones.. . in a slightly darkened area.. When you are drying her off again keep you speaking voice low and rub her dry with strong strokes. Make sure you breast feed her in a chair not the bed.. Once she has been changed, fed and burped, just lay her down... She will be like a limp noodle.. Maybe pat her bottom or rub her back for a little while..

I am sending you a good nights sleep..

There are many wrongs and rights in raising kids as I am sure you know but just because it is right to you does not meen it should be wrong when someone else says it is...but if you want her to get used to sleeping in her bed let her fall asleep with you and then put her in her crib I did have the same issue with my youngest and although I liked her there, I like you was not getting the sleep I needed it was tough because I was super tired but eventually she got the clue...lol
Maybe try to make the crib warm, you know crib mattresses are so crunchy and cold and that used to wake her up. Many blessings.

Start tomorrow night-you will have 2 weekend nights to work on it. You may be a bit tired next week but it will be worth it. Take Monday off if you can even.

We had the same problem with my Son. What worked so far is we started putting him in his crib on the weekends for naps, then we put him in the crib for bed. The first night he only slept in there for two hours, but slowly he has been sleeping longer and all the way through the night sometimes. I find myself getting him and putting him in my bed because I miss him. A lot of stay at home Moms don't get it, but us working Moms have a hard time not spending so much time with our baby. It's only natural to want them around even if we get zero sleep. Good luck to you!

My daughter is 5 now and we still bedshare. I love having her by me during sleeping. I know her demanding her privacy and being more stingy with snuggles, hugs and kisses will be looming ahead of me soon enough that I don't want to lose the love and innocence only a young child can offer just yet.

I'd stop stressing over it and just enjoy it while you can. As stated earlier - unless someone is drunk, heavily medicated or a very deep sleeper - there is slight danger of baby being crushed or rolled onto. Parents seem to gain some sort of 'abilities' to know how their child is doing and where they are.

I did the same thing with my first and promised myself that I wouldn't make that mistake again and what I did was use a co-sleeper. I don't know if you're familiar with them or not - we used the Arm's Reach Co-Sleeper and it worked wonderfully because she was still very close to me - easy to reach over and sooth her while I was still half asleep! - yet she was safely in her own bed. This is the co-sleeper we used and loved: http://www.amazon.com/Arms-Reach-Natural-Original-Co-Slee...

Another suggestion I would have is to read "Good Night, Sleep Tight" by Kim West - in my opinion the BEST sleep training book there is. I was never a "cry it out" fan, but not a "pushover" either and this book and the "Sleep Shuffle" technique was perfect for me and worked miracles in our house - it literally changed our lives! The best part about it is that you don't have to read the whole book to be able to put it to work for you - we moms are just too busy to read a whole book, right? You just have to read the first couple of chapters, and then the section that pertains to your situation or child's age. Here's a link for it: http://www.amazon.com/Sleep-Ladys-Good-Night-Tight/dp/159...

I actually published an article about my kids issues and this book, if you'd like to read it, here's a link: http://hubpages.com/hub/sleep-training-good-night-sleep-t...

Sorry for all the links - just trying to be helpful. Best of luck!

You need to establish a bedtime routine and put her in HER bed at night. It's not going to be pleasant the first few times, but it will be worth it.
You know what to do...
You just don't want to deal... I totally understand...
There is NO easy fix...
You can do it now when it will be easier or you can do it later when it will be miserably difficult. Your choice.
Put her in her bed. Pat her back or her butt if she cries. Don't pick her up unless she needs changing. If she does, you change her and you put her back into her bed. Ditto for feeding.
The first time you give in and put her in your bed, you'll have to start over. Be consistent. Be firm. Put her in her bed...
LBC

I would make sure she has a nice full tummy and something to help comfort her like a pacifier or blanket. I had found a teddy bear that has the mom's heartbeat in it and used that some. They do eventually get used to it. I found that my little girl liked a fuzzy blanket under her over the mattress ( I tucked the edges underneath the mattress for safety ). She didn't like the cold sheet at all, even in summer. Eventually, we found a quilted padded mattress sheet. Love it!

I am a co sleeper too. The suggestion to put one on the side of your bed is a great idea. Your husband will not crush her unless he's drunk or medicated. Have you read anything on co sleeping? It's awesome. I understand your fears too though.
I loved sleeping with my daughter. Nothing could be more simple and I really slept well. My daughter would somehow know where my breast was, latch on and nurse through the night while I slept through most of it. No waking up to get her to nurse or anything. The grow up so quickly that it's a shame to miss out on this time.

dear J.,i too had to face this situation untill my baby was 4 month old,later i use to give her a warm bath,swab her,put her to sleep in my arms,then i put her in crib nd place fluffy n smooth blanket around her [like a nest].this made her feel she's sleeping next to me nd would sleep like an angel.i hope this will work for u.

A step at a time- get one of thos litte beds that goes next to your bed, you can have a hand or arm on her, and from there to crib.
best, k

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Hi,

I am in favor of co-sleeping. So I see no problem with it. But if you want her in the crib, start putting her in the crib for a few minutes at a time in the day---make it a positive place. Toys, books, fun things to look at-music etc. Gently increase the time daily and then work yourself into getting her to take a nap in there, two naps bedtime etc. Good luck-- whatever you decide, stick with it so she doesn't get confused.

M

Get a cosleeper with a zip down side. That way she can be right beside your bed, you can still reach out and touch her, but she is in her own little space. Or try a pack and play with a bassinette topper. Our second slept in that, then slept in bottom once she started sitting up. We are expecting our third, and got rid of the crib entirely. We will use the pack n play with this one, too. We have one for the living room and one for the bedroom.

I know just how you feel, i did it with my first when she would wake up in the middle of the night. der I have learned to sleep with her in one arm on my back and not move. I use my pillows to keep my arm propped up but then wake up about an half hour later or so and then would carry her to the crib, but couldnt talk to her or she wake up. Also, a sound machine helpped her not wake up to slight noise at night.