Mom Seeking Advice, as to What I Should Feed Her

She's probably going through the stage where she does not want to be fed anymore , so I would halt the spoon foods and give her things such as toast , small sandwiches , pieces of fruit like banana or Strawberries , crackers , cuccunber sticks , basically anything you are having ( hold off on nuts for now as they are easy to choke on) , you could try grapes but halve them and stay by her just incase. For breakfast try pancakes , or cereals like cheerios with a little milk so she can still pick them up , or toasted bagel with c/cheese. You will probably find she is more willing to try new foods if you let her do it herself , it's good practice for her with the hand to mouth coordination and learning to chew.

Give her anything and everything (except whole nuts) in very tiny pieces and let her feed herself. At that age, it's not uncommon and totally developmentally normal for babies to refuse to eat from a spoon because they want to feed themselves. My daughter is 13 months also and she eats EVERYTHING! We just cut it into small pieces for her.
For breakfast: Waffles with peanut butter and grapes
For lunch: Pork tamales, corn and raisin tamales
For dinner: Steak, tomatoes, carmelized leaks, mashed potatoes (I put little lumps on her tray and let her go)
As for the bottle, ditch it. You're daughter should be drinking from a cup, can drink from a cup, but won't as long as she knows you'll give her a bottle. Give her a sippy cup at meals and toss/hide/store the bottles. She might not drink a ton at first, even for the first few days, but she'll get it eventually. Sometimes it helps to remove the regulator from a sippy cup for the first week or so, so the child doesn't have to suck as hard to get liquid. It's messy, but you're teaching your daughter a new, necessary skill, so stick with it.
Good luck!

I am having the exact opposite problem with my 13 month old daughter. I want her to continue eating the baby food and regular food. She refuses some of the baby food but prefers my food. I would try small pieces/chunks of food to start with like everyone else has suggested.

As for bottles you just gotta take the bottle away. I started my daughter early on sippy cups. Bc i didn't want that problem. I only gave her juice in sippys. and when i gave it to her there was no bottle in sight and that is what she had to drink. I found that she only likes one cup. It has a soft spout no valves (i hate cleaning them) and they come in Princess, TinkerBell and Minnie Mouse. They have other ones but those are the really girlie ones.

a lot of children seem to exist on air and water. Don't worry! She'll eat when she's hungry. Just keep offering foods to her and even try the same foods later that week. It took my son a while to get used to the sippy cups. You may have to try a few as some do involve a fair amount of work to get the liquid out...I found that out from several I bought. If they aren't able to get it out, how would you? She probably prefers the bottle because that just slides down her throat. My son was labeled a "lazy nurser" from birth. It could also be that she's getting teeth in.
My son seems to eat me out of house and home one day (he is only 2) and the next day, not eat much at all...could be that she is not in a growth spurt as well...
Keep trying and don't get upset when she doesn't eat...she will when she's hungry enough...it may even be right before bedtime....sometimes my son would eat cream of wheat right before bed....
I would shy away from the instant oatmeal and just cook the 2 minute oatmeal....cream of wheat is quick as well with a 2 minute version. I always made a double portion so I'd have some to save for later.
Do you have your daughter on cow's milk already? I breastfed my son for only 2 months, and he went to formula (I had postpardum depression, milk went away) then tried him on cow's milk, had issues....nothing like an allergy or intolerance, but it just didn't agree with him. Went to goat's milk. Can get at any main grocery store, comes in a half gallon carton either full or low fat....he LOVES it...has all that cow milk offers and better! Even for those who are lactose intolerant and is even recommended for babies that were breastfed or have had formula problems in the past...
Hope this helps!
One could also make their own baby food....get a blender called the "Magic Bullet" and puree vegetables and fruit....

N. T.

She's only 13 months so I think she'll eventually start eating other foods. It seems that the more eager parents are to move babies on to the next stage the less willing the baby/child is! I agree with other posts, put out a tray with small, soft pieces of food and let her graze during the day. This is what Dr. Sears recommends. Eggs, cheese, avocados, bananas, pasta, pears, french toast, homemade waffles, etc. The less processed the better. My daughter loves whole grain oatmeal. It's healthier and only takes a couple extra minutes to cook and my daughter can pick up clumps of the oatmeal sweetened with maple syrup or a bit of honey.
Also, If your daughter is still drinking formula or milk from a bottle that probably fills her up. Try feeding her first and offering the bottle second.
Also try a sippy with a soft spout like Nuby. My kids couldn't figure out the Avent sippy cup but loved the Nuby.
As long as you offer her lots of healthy choices, she'll get what she needs. Its normal for kids to be picky eaters. Keep offering and she'll eat when she's hungry!

Actually, a few bites is great, because a serving size is 1 Tablespoon for most things at her age. Oatmeal can be tricky, my 2yo still won't eat it, its sticky and hard to swallow. She may also be getting her first year molars, which can cause issues in the back of their mouth for up to a month.

For the cups, try the straw cups. The sippies don't teach them anything different, since they're the same action as a bottle. The straw cups will teach her something new, build muscle strength in different parts of her mouth and allow her to drink without having to tip back.

The other have given great tips as well - good luck!

Try the Take and Toss sippy cups. They are cheap and meant to be recycled, though I use them over and over. My son just chewed on and threw all the expensive sippy cups I tried, except for the Take and Toss ones.
At 12 months my son likes to feed himself chunks of food. He doesn't like to be spoon fed. I think he feels more in control of what's going in that way. Anything mushy and wet seems to go over well. We started with blueberries cut in fourths. Strawberries were also successful, just not the hard pointy bottoms. Canned fruit works better than fresh for pears and peaches- if you look you can find them packed in pear juice instead of syrup. Avacados and bananas were a hit. Scrambled eggs and cottage cheese went over well this week. String cheese pieces, puffs, and cheerios all work even though they don't follow the mushy and wet rule. The only veggie I've had success with so far is canned carrots. You can get them with no salt added. The frozen ones didn't work, even though they seem just like the pieces in his 3rd stage dinners. No success yet on peas, green beans, or meats. Even mashed potatoes and sweet potatoes make him gag! I should say that he loves all the veggies just fine when in baby food. I spoon feed him baby oatmeal mixed with pureed veggies in the morning when he's really hungry and cooperative to compensate! Lunch is when he's up for new challenges in chunky food. Dinner is when we stick to familiar foods, since he's most fussy and gag=prone then. Good luck!

My 4 year old has always been a food texture kid and if the texture turns him off he won't eat it. Try things like diced avocado, bananas, small pieces of poached or baked chicken and fish. If she's got enough teeth give her a quarter of a peeled apple, she'll have to use her teeth to grind it down so she won't ever get a chunk that's too large and it'll keep her occupied :) Cheerios are always good even the fruity ones (plus they're better than Froot Loops), diced string cheese, whole milk yogurt is a great option especially for breakfast. Eggy bread is a favorite of my 10 month old, you prep the bread like you would for french toast, just soak it for a long time in egg mixture until it's practically falling apart and cook on a skillet. He also loves scrambled egg yolks (hasn't had the whites yet). I dump it on his tray and let him go to town.
As far as the sippy cup get her working on it. Don't offer bottles, I'm starting with the 10 month old and have been working with him for the past 2 months he think's it's funny to chew on it but is always surprised when he actually gets something out. Try different brands some kids just don't like the spouts on them. Once she realizes that's the only way she's going to get a drink she'll probably move on from the bottle. It might be frustrating but it's not good for her mouth development to continue on the bottle.