So EVERY year even before DD was here- Halloween was at my house. we hand out tons of candy. the yrd is all festive, have people over for pizza and we even dress up!
so now our daughter is 2 and prolly this year going to go trick or treating. It seems everyone wants to "take" her or have us take her to "their" house to go trick or treating.
I would like to take my own daughter in her own neighboorhood where she knows everyone and is comfortable.
am i over reacting. like come on... there will be other halloweens... shes only 2 and has plenty more.
i understand its new and exciting to them too. (new aunts, uncles and gmas and gpas) all want to share the "first" experience.
maybe theres not even a question here..lol just wanted to vent..
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Im sure we will still have it our house. and see how it goes. if some want to walk with us they can. if not they can stay at the hosue and pass out (like a few moms suggested) . Im sure it will be fine.. lol
I guess i just get a little aggervated,, and yes this happens for every holiday! i hate being the one to rush here rush there !!
There is one thing that my mom always told me because I also have a way too involved MIL who wants in on everything. For you, I'll phrase it this way. They all had their time with their children (gparents) it's now YOUR turn! You're the mom, you're the parent, YOU will only get this special time once. Enjoy it and do it all with her.
I feel the same way with my kids, in fact we just go out and I take them to a couple of family members and friends then we go back home ...they don't need all that candy anyway and sounds like you have more fun at your house. Go to a couple close neighbors and then be at home. My kids always like seeing the other costumes anyway! Have fun!!
If everyone is so excited to join in this year, just invite them to come trick or treating with you. That way everyone's a winner, especially your DD. If you really want it just to be you and your DD, politely tell everyone maybe next year. She's your little girl and it shouldn't be a big deal for anyone if you don't go to theirs.
Hey L.,
Halloween/Holidays in general were a huge argument with my family since we at the time had the only grandchild. Everyone wanted us running around to their neighborhoods and I will say the 1st 2 years we did that. I put an end to it quickly though since we were getting exhausted every holiday and the arguments on who's house we ate "dinner" at - the other family always got offended. It was a losing battle. I now host every holiday here at my house - plus I have the larger house and can accommodate everyone. Concerning Halloween - family can come over either before we head out getting candy or stay to hand it out from our house - or walk with us. We leave it up to them - but made it clear this is what we are doing and you are free to come along.
Hey L.,
Been there and done it...our solution was to have everyone that really wanted to be with the kids come walking with us. Then pizza at our house. If they can't make it...at least you made the effort. She is your child and you, as her parent, should be the one to enjoy her the most! Be glad that you have tons of people that care for your family and know and take pride in the fact that she brings joy to so many! Have Fun!!!
Could you invite them to go with you? We don't have too many houses in the neighborhood, so we go to my brother's or my aunt's house and go trick or treating with them. We have invited grandma and grandpa to go with us. They usually just walk around with us (or if we go to my aunt's she has a golf cart so they ride:) )but they like it and they kids like seeing them too. We usually give our daughter the choice of who she wants to go trick or treating with - which set of cousins, and then go from there.
HTH
J.
I had a preemie too, mine was a 31 weeker...
I just want to say, that when my daughter was two, I took her dressed up during the day to visit my husband at work and my Grandparents. Then in the evening I drove her around town and went to her uncles and grandparents and my best friends houses. For me, I knew it was special to them, I didn't call first and wasn't asked to come, I kinda just showed up and said trick or treat... everyone loved seeing her in her costume. we just went to 3-4 houses in the neighborhood of my favorite neighbors. She was too young for candy anyway. Everyone just wants to see how cute your daughter is... I'm assuming all these people are invited to your halloween party anyway? Why can't they all just go with you? I think I'm missing something....
Invite them to your house... they can go with you...or stay home and hand out candy. We do it this way. My parents come and then stay at our house to hand out treats. One year my husbands mom and grandpa wanted to come...they were really late...we ended up taking my son and he was ready for bed bascially when they got there...
She is two... a few houses may be enough... it will be somewhat overwhelming for her... a ton of people may just bring on a meltdown...
You are not over reacting at all. She is only 2 and she will wear out pretty fast. Dragging her around all over will only tire her out faster and you will likely have a cranky little trick or treater. What fun is that for anyone? My daughter is 3 this year and I remember last year that we did as many houses as she wanted to walk to and then she said that she was done and we went home!
Remember, this is also your first time to trick or treat with YOUR daughter. I see that she was a preemie, so you've been through a lot to get to this point. HAVE FUN!!!
you are her mom and that should tell the other people everything.....i say do what you want
I would continue with your Halloween tradition of having people over, and then when it's time to trick or treat, you take her along with anyone else who wants to go. Whoever doesn't want to go, can stay back at your house and hand out candy. We usually have people over to our house (especially this year because it's on a Saturday). The moms and myself usually take the kids trick or treating and the dads usally stay back at the house and hand out candy. When we get back we all play games or watch Hween movies together!!! I also wanted to add, that it's probably best if you take her. She is so young and sometimes the little kids get scared of the other costumes that they see when they are out trick or treating. You want to be there to console her.
Why don't you continue with things as you used to, and still take her out? We did something similar before having kids too, and when our kids came along (only 3 and 4 1/2), we continued. Some of the grandparents and aunts/uncles chose to walk with us, and the others stayed home to pass out the candy. Since the kids are still kind of little for all of that walking, we stay within our own neighborhood, see the people that we know and then head home. They don't need that much candy, but they got to go out, the people who wanted to walk with them did, and my husband and I get to go as well, since we leave others behind to hand out candy. (We also saw a family last year handing out candy as they walked so both parents could walk with the kids and no one was at home.) But no, you are not over reacting...she is your daughter and you (and your husband) should be a part of her big moments...everyone else is secondary. If you can combine both things, that may be best...otherwise, do what you want to do!
Oh absolutely stay at your own house! People that want to see your daughter can come to HER :) Much easier with a little one to be at your own house, and why break the tradition :) We do the same thing at my house!
Me, my mom, my best friend and sometimes an Aunt or 2 would trick or treat with my daughter. Everyone else hung out here at the house passing out candy
I would feel the exact same way! She'll only have her 1st trick or treating once and you're her mamma, by all means, you should be there with your camera handy. Enjoy!!!
Since this year Halloween is on Saturday, tell you guest that they are welcome to come over, but you will be trick or treating in your neighborhood from 6-7. A 2 year old won't last much longer. Then have your party at 7:30 or 8. As far as grandparents and aunt/uncles, have them come to your house or go on Friday.
I know that I wouldn't want to have anyone else take my daughter trick-or-treating for the first time and me not be there.... I say it's your daughter, and you should take her if that is what you want to do.
If you've already established a tradition and she's only 2, I'd say to stick to your guns and say that she will be doing Halloween with you, and they are welcome to come along if they want to. If you begin this round-robin of relatives taking her, it'll be hard to pull back. You have this chance to do this the way you feel is best for your own child, and I'd go for it! Make your own traditions and keep your children close to you. She's already away from you in day care while you work. Tell everyone very sweetly that your daughter's celebrating will be at your home and they can join you if they like. You are the mama and you've been through a lot with her being born so early. Stake your claim to keep her close with this fun thing now or you'll have to fight tooth and nail to change it back!
