After birth...and My Episiotomy

Hi J.. I had the same experice with my first child. It took me a long time to heal but it does get better. You will have relations again with your husband just give yourself some time. I was not able to walk for like 4 weeks but once you go back to your doctor let him know how you feel. Believe me it gets better as time goes on.

Honey, I feel your pain. You will be fine!!! Our bodies are made for this, really! Trust me! I was in labor for 43 hours. My doc said, listen, he is coming down but when you stop pushing he is going back up. You will probably need C. I freaked! She said ok, then we can try vacuum. We did and it was hard work but he came out. BUT!!! The room looked like Texas Chain Saw...and you should have seen my husband. He was ready to give me a transfusion! After I don't know how many stiches, my placenta would not come, my doc had to manually deliver and the stiches all came out. Back to the drawing board!

Anyway, that was 14 months ago and my husband swears I am as good as new! Take vitamins, sids baths (or whatever they call those cleansing baths over the poddy), and just take it easy. You will be fine! After a few more weeks, go back to your prebaby exercises to strength yourself again.

Best of luck!

You will feel "normal" again after you completely heal. Sitz baths and tucks were my hero's in terms of my healing process. You still have 3 more weeks before you are cleared from the doctor to have sex, however, depending on the degree of that tear/episiotomy, you may have to wait a little longer and that is only better for you. Take your time, you will have relations with you husband again and you wont feel like Frankenstein as long as you have completely healed. Best of luck to you and enjoy your new baby

oooohhh hunny! i feel u! i had a 8lb 2oz 20 1/2 inch baby last february and i tore horribly! it took me about 7 w3eeks b4 i felt normal again!

I am 35 and have 3 girls 7, 4, & 15 mos. After #1 I had a 3rd degree tear. Having not had an epidoral they stiched me and I felt everthing. A 3rd degree means my muscle tore as well. It did take a while to heal. I even saw a colal rectal surgeon to make sure it was o.k.. It took a few months until it felt better. Sex was painful for a while, almost like an uncomfortable stretching feeling. IT DID GET BETTER. GIve it some more time. Also, don;t laugh but the more you "use" it the better it will get.
My other 2 children were born also w/o epidorals and I did not tear or need an episiodemy.

Hi---i hear you. My daughter is almost 6 weeks and i had a long incision too stretching way toward the rear. The third week was as bad as the second and also discouraging b/c it seemed as if it wasn't improving. Not feeling very pretty or sexy at the time! Also all the adrenalin of the first two weeks was way down, and sleep deprivation catching up. I think in the fifth week i finally noticed it healing even though I still was bleeding. Anyway, now 95% better, and no longer meticulously rinsing every time i go to the bathroom (or as much as possible with very little time). I barely think about it anymore though Im worried the scar will be thick and make the whole area less stretchy and as we know, from pooping to intercourse, to childbirth, that's one area we want to keep flexible! Anyone else out there healed up? My first child was by cesarean and it took the at scar at least a year to get less angry, so i guess time will tell. (This scar isnt even itchy or angry, actually) Still, much much much better than I felt at 3 weeks. Also, I started forcing myself to rest when possible and I think that helped. 6 week postpartum checkup next week. Hope this helps.